Growing up, I wasn’t taught how to create habits—I was taught how to serve the person who had them.
Sound familiar?
If you’re anything like me, your earliest routines weren’t your own. You were taught how to support a man’s schedule. How to cater to a family. How to pour into a job, a church, or a community that didn’t always pour back. You were taught to be helpful, devoted, present.
But you weren’t taught to build systems that honored you.
The Shock of Stillness
When I started working for myself, I didn’t feel free.
I felt lost.
No meetings to show up to. No expectations to meet. No one else’s needs to fill.
That’s when I realized something devastating:
I had no discipline of my own.
No structure. No self-built rituals.
And I had no idea where to start.
That made me ask one of the hardest questions I’ve ever asked myself:
Do I love myself enough to create habits that support my life?
When Atomic Habits Felt Like a Foreign Language
Someone gifted me Atomic Habits by James Clear, and I remember flipping through the first pages thinking, “This doesn’t sound like it’s for me.”
Not because it wasn’t smart—but because it didn’t speak to the emotional weight I was carrying.
It felt cold. Calculated. Unfamiliar.
But I kept reading.
And little by little, I realized the problem wasn’t the language—it was me.
Or rather, the version of me I had been conditioned to be.
The Real Work Isn’t Just a New Habit — It’s a New Mind
Changing your life isn’t just about a morning routine.
It’s about healing the reason you never gave yourself one.
It’s not about reading every self-help book.
It’s about deciding—really deciding—that you deserve to become the version of yourself who no longer begs for time or peace.
And truthfully?
The decision is the hardest part.
The rest comes with practice.
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